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Mourning Personal or Community Losses as a Sportsperson After a Critical Incident

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In the aftermath of a critical incident, the pain of loss—whether it’s personal, collective, or both—can feel overwhelming. For athletes and coaches, this grief comes with a unique challenge: balancing the emotional weight of mourning while maintaining the focus and discipline required in competitive sports.

Mourning is deeply personal, but as part of a sports team, it’s also a shared journey. Your role as a public figure or team member gives you the opportunity to channel grief into connection, healing, and purpose. This article explores how athletes and coaches can navigate mourning personal or community losses while continuing to honor their commitments.


Mourning Personal or Community Losses as a Sportsperson After a Critical Incident


1. Honor the Individual Nature of Mourning

Grief is not one-size-fits-all, and how you mourn may differ greatly from your teammates or peers. Some may need space, while others find comfort in togetherness.

  • What to Do:

    • Reflect on what feels right for you: “Do I need quiet time, or would I benefit from connecting with others?”

    • Communicate your needs with your team or coach: “I might not be as vocal in practice today, but I’m still here.”

    • Allow yourself to mourn in your way, whether it’s through journaling, listening to music, or physical movement.



2. Use Movement as a Tribute

For athletes, the body is a powerful tool for expression. Channeling grief into movement can provide a sense of purpose and connection.

  • How to Use Movement:

    • Dedicate part of your training session to honoring what you’ve lost, such as running an extra lap or performing a specific drill with intention.

    • Create a team ritual, like huddling together before practice to acknowledge the loss.

    • Use rhythmic activities, like swimming or cycling, as a way to process emotions physically.



3. Acknowledge Collective Grief Within the Team

When a community is affected, the grief often extends beyond the individual. Recognizing and addressing collective grief can strengthen team bonds and foster a sense of shared healing.

  • How to Support Collective Mourning:

    • Organize a team meeting to openly acknowledge the loss and its impact.

    • Create a symbol of unity, such as wearing ribbons or armbands, to honor what has been lost.

    • Dedicate a game or event to the community, using your performance as a way to inspire hope and resilience.



4. Build Rituals of Remembrance

Rituals provide structure and meaning to the mourning process, helping you and your team find ways to honor the loss while moving forward.

  • Ideas for Rituals:

    • Hold a moment of silence before practices or games.

    • Write messages of remembrance on gear, such as shoes, jerseys, or tape.

    • Create a memorial space in the locker room where team members can leave notes, photos, or personal items.



5. Navigate Public Mourning With Care

As athletes, you may face additional pressure to mourn publicly, whether through interviews, social media, or appearances. Balancing personal grief with public expectations requires intentional boundaries.

  • How to Manage Public Mourning:

    • Decide in advance how much you’re comfortable sharing. Use phrases like:

      • “This has been a tough time for all of us, and I appreciate your understanding as we process it privately.”

    • Lean on your team’s PR or media staff to help manage communication.

    • Use your platform to honor the loss meaningfully, such as sharing uplifting memories or expressing gratitude for community support.



6. Recognize the Emotional Impact on Performance

Mourning can affect focus, motivation, and energy levels. It’s important to acknowledge these changes without self-criticism.

  • What to Do:

    • Break practices or games into smaller mental tasks: focus on one drill, one play, or one moment at a time.

    • If focus wavers, use grounding techniques like deep breathing or a mantra: “I’m here, I’m present, I’m doing my best.”

    • Be patient with yourself and your team, understanding that emotional recovery takes time.



7. Lean on Team and Community Support

Grief can feel isolating, but connecting with others who share your experience can provide comfort and strength.

  • How to Build Connection:

    • Check in with teammates regularly, even if it’s just a simple, “How are you holding up?”

    • Participate in community events that bring people together, such as fundraisers or memorials.

    • Seek support from counselors, chaplains, or sports psychologists who understand the dynamics of team environments.



8. Channel Grief Into Purpose

Turning grief into action can help you feel empowered and connected to a greater cause.

  • Ways to Find Purpose:

    • Dedicate your performance to the person or community you’re mourning.

    • Organize or participate in community service projects that honor the loss, such as rebuilding efforts or charity events.

    • Use your platform to advocate for resilience and hope, sharing messages of strength and unity.



9. Give Yourself Permission to Experience Joy

Mourning doesn’t mean you have to let go of happiness. Allowing moments of joy amidst grief can be a powerful part of healing.

  • How to Embrace Joy:

    • Celebrate small victories, whether it’s a great practice session or a shared laugh with teammates.

    • Spend time doing activities that bring comfort, like cooking, listening to music, or connecting with loved ones.

    • Remind yourself that experiencing joy doesn’t diminish your grief—it’s a testament to your resilience.



10. Recognize That Mourning Has No Timeline

There’s no “right” way to grieve or a set schedule for moving forward. Mourning may ebb and flow, sometimes resurfacing when you least expect it.

  • What to Remember:

    • Be kind to yourself on tough days, using supportive self-talk: “It’s okay to feel this today—I’m still healing.”

    • Honor milestones or anniversaries with intentional acts of remembrance, like a moment of silence or a personal reflection.

    • Seek ongoing support when needed, whether from teammates, friends, or professionals.



Final Thoughts

Mourning personal or community losses as a sportsperson is a complex journey, blending the personal and the public, the emotional and the physical. By honoring your grief, leaning on your team and community, and finding ways to integrate mourning into your role as an athlete or coach, you can navigate this difficult time with strength and compassion.

Remember, the resilience you cultivate through sports is the same resilience that will guide you through loss. Take it one step, one play, one moment at a time—and trust that healing is a process you don’t have to face alone. Together, you and your team can find hope and meaning amidst the sorrow.


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